“Why are you pulling away, just when things were getting good?” When we become increasingly intimate with another person, particularly in a sexual relationship, all kinds of fears and vulnerabilities can arise, often at an unconscious level. This is quite natural and common, and often happens to either or both partners just when things have… [Read More…]
If You Want Ecstasy, Put Your Attention On “This”
Once upon a time, I thought I had to “do” something to experience more ecstasy in my life — like see more sunsets, or meditate more or better to get “there.” As if ecstasy is something to achieve, like we often think of “achieving” orgasm. I also once thought I needed to make love in… [Read More…]
Beware the Penetration Imperative (with video)
Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before proceeding to intercourse. When was the last time you did something together — anything! …just for the… [Read More…]
How to Make Resolutions for a Better Love Life
Do you make New Year’s resolutions each year? If yes, are there particular ways you like to write them out? Do you have a special ritual you like to do before and/or after the New Year? The people I know seem to have various ways of approaching New Year’s resolutions. And, whatever works for each… [Read More…]
How to Improve Your Sex Life with Gratitude [Brain Science]
Science has now proven how gratitude can improve your love life (including your sex life). I know, the connection may seem a little murky or like a big leap, but it’s actually very clear and direct. If you’ll stick with me, I’ll connect the dots… First, gratitude can make your entire life happier. And it can specifically… [Read More…]