“The gap between your goal and where you are now can hinder you,” my instructor said during yoga class. She was encouraging us to relax into a pose rather than force it. She went on to say that there is no feedback in that gap; the only feedback is in the present. This, of course,… [Read More…]
Posts Categorized: Emotional Intimacy
EXPAND YOUR CAPACITY FOR PLEASURE
One morning while we were making love, I hit upon something I never knew existed… I bumped up against my pleasure threshold! Whoa! Too intense! I contracted and backed off, which I’m sure I’ve done before — unconsciously. The difference this time was I could see it. I couldn’t quite verbalize it, but my very intuitive… [Read More…]
IS THE “PUSH-PULL DYNAMIC” THREATENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
“Why are you pulling away, just when things were getting good?” When we become increasingly intimate with another person, particularly in a sexual relationship, all kinds of fears and vulnerabilities can arise, often at an unconscious level. This is quite natural and common, and often happens to either or both partners just when things have… [Read More…]
How to Get Kissed the Way You Like It
Do you remember how exciting kissing was, once upon a time… maybe as a teenager, when you knew that kissing was as far as you would go? (This was a fairly extended period of time for me since, as my sons say, I was a “goody two-shoes” in high school. And I could have easily… [Read More…]
Make Love, Not War [With Yourself or a Partner]
The energy of these times is stirring up generalized anxiety in many people. Regardless of your political views and values, the external situation brought home daily with reports of violence, threats to personal identity and privacy, terrorism, and economic uncertainty can evoke internal resonance from the past. Be aware that if you are feeling insecure,… [Read More…]