“Why are you pulling away, just when things were getting good?” When we become increasingly intimate with another person, particularly in a sexual relationship, all kinds of fears and vulnerabilities can arise, often at an unconscious level. This is quite natural and common, and often happens to either or both partners just when things have… [Read More…]
Posts Categorized: Emotional Intimacy
How Gratitude Gives You Better Sex and Greater Happiness
I overheard someone say they are so grateful to have you in their life, for the wonderful person you are and for all you do! Let that sink in. Doesn’t the idea of hearing that make you feel all warm and fuzzy and interested in, even open-hearted toward, whoever is expressing appreciation for you? And… [Read More…]
Want Better Sex? Reconnect with Your Body and Your Desire
As we age or get busy with the functional and intellectual aspects of life, we may lose touch with our sensuality and desire. To enhance your sex life, it’s important to reconnect with your body and your desire. Based on my surveys over the years and direct conversations with both men and women, a common… [Read More…]
Here’s Where to Find Ecstasy
“The gap between your goal and where you are now can hinder you,” my instructor once said during yoga class. She was encouraging us to relax into a pose rather than force it. She went on to say that there is no feedback in that gap; the only feedback is in the present. This, of… [Read More…]
Beware the Penetration Imperative (with video)
Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before proceeding to intercourse. When was the last time you did something together — anything! …just for the… [Read More…]