For greater passion with deeper emotional and spiritual connection… A business consultant I once got advice from (I’ll call her Sara, to protect her identity) told me her most powerful sexual experiences were with a man who demanded she open her eyes during sex. (Yes, as a sex and intimacy coach, people seem compelled to… [Read More…]
IS THE “PUSH-PULL DYNAMIC” THREATENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
“Why are you pulling away, just when things were getting good?” When we become increasingly intimate with another person, particularly in a sexual relationship, all kinds of fears and vulnerabilities can arise, often at an unconscious level. This is quite natural and common, and often happens to either or both partners just when things have… [Read More…]
If You Want Ecstasy, Put Your Attention On “This”
Once upon a time, I thought I had to “do” something to experience more ecstasy in my life — like see more sunsets, or meditate more or better to get “there.” As if ecstasy is something to achieve, like we often think of “achieving” orgasm. I also once thought I needed to make love in… [Read More…]
Touch Men and Women Differently
If your partner is the opposite gender, don’t assume they want to be touched the same way you do. Have you ever wanted your partner to touch you differently? Perhaps with a lighter or firmer hand, but they just didn’t “get” it? Maybe you responded by caressing him or her with the kind of touch… [Read More…]
Beware the Penetration Imperative (with video)
Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before proceeding to intercourse. When was the last time you did something together — anything! …just for the… [Read More…]