“The gap between your goal and where you are now can hinder you,” my instructor once said during yoga class. She was encouraging us to relax into a pose rather than force it. She went on to say that there is no feedback in that gap; the only feedback is in the present. This, of… [Read More…]
Be “Like a Virgin”… Again and Again
Remember the song by Madonna, which goes, “Like a virgin, touched for the very first time…”? Well, if you want the best sex possible on a continuing basis, I highly recommend you try taking Madonna’s advice or adopt a Zen “beginner’s mind” into your sexual experience, alone or with a partner! Leave your expectations or… [Read More…]
BEWARE “THE TOUCH TRAP:” Touch More, Even When You Don’t Feel Sexy.
It’s really common for people in long-term relationships fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you tend to associate physical expressions of affection toward (or from) your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, you and… [Read More…]
Want Better Sex? Reconnect with Your Body and Your Desire
As we age or get busy with the functional and intellectual aspects of life, we may lose touch with our sensuality and desire. To enhance your sex life, it’s important to reconnect with your body and your desire. Based on my surveys over the years and direct conversations with both men and women, a common… [Read More…]
How to Use Sexual Energy for Healing
Your hands, your heart, and a man’s penis can be instruments for sexual healing. I’m going to discuss a couple of easy ways to heal yourself or your partner with sexual energy. One method helps a woman’s vagina become more sexually responsive. As you’ve undoubtedly noticed, sexual activity generates a lot of energy. That’s one… [Read More…]