It’s easy to get caught up thinking about how we’d like our current partner to change or what the perfect partner would be like. The truth is, what we long for in relationship is a clue to what we need to cultivate in ourselves in order to get what we want. Let me explain. And… [Read More…]
Posts Categorized: Perspectives
Make Love, Not War [With Yourself or a Partner]
The energy of these times is stirring up generalized anxiety in many people. Regardless of your political views and values, the external situation brought home daily with the media blasting reports of chaos and violence, threats to personal health and safety, and economic uncertainty can evoke internal resonance from the past. Be aware that if… [Read More…]
If You Want Ecstasy, Put Your Attention On “This”
Once upon a time, I thought I had to “do” something to experience more ecstasy in my life — like see more sunsets, or meditate more or better to get “there.” As if ecstasy is something to achieve, like we often think of “achieving” orgasm. I also once thought I needed to make love in… [Read More…]
What do you practice in your love life?
A friend showed me this compelling 2-minute video of this lovely young boy asking a very profound and practical question. The video is not about sex; it’s about all of life – but I’ll show you how it applies to your sex life here too. Another perspective on this wisdom is that others in our… [Read More…]
LOOK DEEPLY INTO THE “WINDOWS OF THE SOUL.”
A business consultant I once got advice from told me her most powerful sexual experiences were with a man who demanded she open her eyes during sex. (Yes, as a sex and intimacy coach, people seem compelled to share their most intimate secrets with me unbidden.) This woman was in her 20s when she was… [Read More…]