It’s easy to get caught up thinking about how we’d like our current partner to change or what the perfect partner would be like. The truth is, what we long for in relationship is a clue to what we need to cultivate in ourselves in order to get what we want. Let me explain. And… [Read More…]
Posts Categorized: Perspectives
How to Make Resolutions for a Better Love Life
Do you make New Year’s resolutions each year? If yes, are there particular ways you like to write them out? Do you have a special ritual you like to do before and/or after the New Year? The people I know seem to have various ways of approaching New Year’s resolutions. And, whatever works for each… [Read More…]
How to Improve Your Sex Life with Gratitude [Brain Science]
Science has now proven how gratitude can improve your love life (including your sex life). I know, the connection may seem a little murky or like a big leap, but it’s actually very clear and direct. If you’ll stick with me, I’ll connect the dots… First, gratitude can make your entire life happier. And it can specifically… [Read More…]
If You Want Ecstasy, Put Your Attention On “This”
Once upon a time, I thought I had to “do” something to experience more ecstasy in my life — like see more sunsets, or meditate more or better to get “there.” As if ecstasy is something to achieve, like we often think of “achieving” orgasm. I also once thought I needed to make love in… [Read More…]
LOOK DEEPLY INTO THE “WINDOWS OF THE SOUL.”
A business consultant I once got advice from told me her most powerful sexual experiences were with a man who demanded she open her eyes during sex. (Yes, as a sex and intimacy coach, people seem compelled to share their most intimate secrets with me unbidden.) This woman was in her 20s when she was… [Read More…]