To Give and Receive Better Sex – Watch Others

I recently had conversations with two women you may relate to (from their partner’s perspectives, if you’re a man). The first I met last week at a conference. I’ll call her Nancy (I always protect confidential conversations). She wrote me afterwards, saying: I wish I had found you a year ago! I thought I had… [Read More…]

LOVE TIP: “50 Shades of Grey” and Sexual Healing

When a Lover Avoids Intimacy or Wants to Control or Hurt You (or you them) on a Regular Basis, Look for Past Trauma When the 50 Shades of Grey books became a phenomenon, I got the audio version, so I could listen while I was driving or doing the dishes. To be honest, I didn’t… [Read More…]

LOVE TIP: Valentine’s Day SUCKS, IF…

…we tell ourselves stories about what happens (or doesn’t happen) means …and those stories suck. Expectations run high, and so does disappointment. The whole idea of Valentine’s Day is that we should feel loving and loved and happy, right? Well, true happiness lies in Loving What Is, as the title of Byron Katie’s book so… [Read More…]