How Gratitude Gives You Better Sex and Greater Happiness

I overheard someone say they are so grateful to have you in their life, for the wonderful person you are and for all you do! Let that sink in. Doesn’t the idea of hearing that make you feel all warm and fuzzy and interested in, even open-hearted toward, whoever is expressing appreciation for you? And… [Read More…]

Here’s Where to Find Ecstasy

“The gap between your goal and where you are now can hinder you,” my instructor once said during yoga class. She was encouraging us to relax into a pose rather than force it. She went on to say that there is no feedback in that gap; the only feedback is in the present. This, of… [Read More…]

Touch Men and Women Differently

If your partner is the opposite gender, don’t assume they want to be touched the same way you do. Have you ever wanted your partner to touch you differently? Perhaps with a lighter or firmer hand, but they just didn’t “get” it? Maybe you responded by caressing him or her with the kind of touch… [Read More…]

Beware the Penetration Imperative (with video)

Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before proceeding to intercourse. When was the last time you did something together — anything! …just for the… [Read More…]