The more aspects of ourselves we are able to bring to our sexual encounters, the more enjoyment we can experience. But, as in most of life, we tend to fall into behavioral ruts, hanging out in our comfort zone – which can be limiting , and lead to loss of interest in your sex life. It’s… [Read More…]
To Give and Receive Better Sex – Watch Others
I recently had conversations with two women you may relate to (from their partner’s perspectives, if you’re a man). The first I met last week at a conference. I’ll call her Nancy (I always protect confidential conversations). She wrote me afterwards, saying: I wish I had found you a year ago! I thought I had… [Read More…]
LOVE TIP: “50 Shades of Grey” and Sexual Healing
When a Lover Avoids Intimacy or Wants to Control or Hurt You (or you them) on a Regular Basis, Look for Past Trauma When the 50 Shades of Grey books became a phenomenon, I got the audio version, so I could listen while I was driving or doing the dishes. To be honest, I didn’t… [Read More…]
LOVE TIP: Valentine’s Day SUCKS, IF…
…we tell ourselves stories about what happens (or doesn’t happen) means …and those stories suck. Expectations run high, and so does disappointment. The whole idea of Valentine’s Day is that we should feel loving and loved and happy, right? Well, true happiness lies in Loving What Is, as the title of Byron Katie’s book so… [Read More…]
Expand Your Comfort Zone for More Pleasure by Trading Places
The more aspects of ourselves we are able to bring to our sexual encounters, the more enjoyment we can experience. But, as in most of life, we tend to fall into behavioral ruts, hanging out in our comfort zone, which can be limiting. It’s time to expand your experiential repertoire! One way to do this… [Read More…]