Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before proceeding to intercourse. When was the last time you did something together — anything! …just for the… [Read More…]
IS THE “PUSH-PULL DYNAMIC” THREATENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
“Why are you pulling away, just when things were getting good?” When we become increasingly intimate with another person, particularly in a sexual relationship, all kinds of fears and vulnerabilities can arise, often at an unconscious level. This is quite natural and common, and often happens to either or both partners just when things have… [Read More…]
If You Want Ecstasy, Put Your Attention On “This”
Once upon a time, I thought I had to “do” something to experience more ecstasy in my life — like see more sunsets, or meditate more or better to get “there.” As if ecstasy is something to achieve, like we often think of “achieving” orgasm. I also once thought I needed to make love in… [Read More…]
Change Up Your Thrusting Patterns – Part 3 of 3
THE $1000 TIP TO BUILD SEXUAL ENERGY Would you like to dramatically heighten your sexual energy and intensity during penetration? A while back I wrote about varying thrusting patterns. (The links to those tips are below.) “Sets of Nine” is a specific thrusting pattern drawn from the ancient Taoist lovemaking tradition. It is said to… [Read More…]
Change Up Your Thrusting Patterns – Part 2 of 3
No matter how great your sex is, even if you have it “dialed in” with your partner, your brain and body become somewhat immune to pleasure when it’s delivered in the same way every time (think “white noise”). We all need variety to keep sex fresh and exciting. Changing up your thrusting patterns is a… [Read More…]