“The gap between your goal and where you are now can hinder you,” my instructor once said during yoga class. She was encouraging us to relax into a pose rather than force it. She went on to say that there is no feedback in that gap; the only feedback is in the present. This, of… [Read More…]
Posts Categorized: Emotional Intimacy
Beware the Penetration Imperative (with video)
Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before proceeding to intercourse. When was the last time you did something together — anything! …just for the… [Read More…]
LOOK DEEPLY INTO THE “WINDOWS OF THE SOUL.”
A business consultant I once got advice from told me her most powerful sexual experiences were with a man who demanded she open her eyes during sex. (Yes, as a sex and intimacy coach, people seem compelled to share their most intimate secrets with me unbidden.) This woman was in her 20s when she was… [Read More…]
Got Tantric Twitches? (Includes video demo!)
Do you or your lover ever get “tantric twitches” or a sort of “turned on Tourettes” when you’re aroused? They’re rather jerky, almost spastic movements known as “kriyas.” Sounds weird, I know. But it actually feels yummy, as long as it’s not freaking out your partner, if you’re with one. (This video from the CBS… [Read More…]
Get More Sex When You Clear Up This Common Misunderstanding
Men and women typically have different interpretations of the response, “I don’t know,” when they ask their partners if they want to have sex. Your partner can mean something totally different than you think! And this can lead to a missed opportunity for lovemaking. In this tip I explain how to overcome this problem for… [Read More…]