Wild-Haired Abandon

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Most of us relish the idea of passionate, spontaneous lovemaking.

The idea of total wild-haired abandon sounds thrilling, doesn’t it?
— and simultaneously terrifying.

Why?

Because most of us fear losing control.

Do I need to remind you that one reason orgasm is so sought after is BECAUSE we lose control? Orgasm takes us beyond our egos, if only for a moment,into realms of pure pleasure.  The French refer to orgasm as “La Petite Mort,” which translates to “The Little Death.”

We secretly yearn for a chance to loosen our tightly held grip on the constructed image we present to the world. Sex offers us this opportunity, but few of us have the courage to dive in and fully take advantage of it.

This transpersonal orgasmic experience can be expanded, and who better to do it with than the one you love? You may not be comfortable with how you think you look or sound, only to find that your partner finds you most attractive when you’re really cutting loose.

If you feel inhibited in allowing yourself abandoned self-expression, discuss this with your partner. Together you need to create a cocoon of permission and safety.

To fully experience “wild-haired” abandon, we have to trust and be vulnerable.

Here’s one measure of your willingness to do this:

When you’re sexually “flying solo,” are you more uninhibited than with a partner? If so, notice what you’re holding back when you’re together, and see if you can allow yourself to relax into the experience without reservation.

Trust and vulnerability are intrinsically linked. The degree to which you allow yourself to be vulnerable and out of control conveys the degree to which you trust your partner. And your partner intuitively knows this. When you let yourself lose control during lovemaking, you are saying to your partner, “I trust you enough to know you’re not going to judge me or take advantage of me when you see me like this.”

And it works both ways. Can you allow your partner to be vulnerable and let go into total sexual abandon? Can you embrace his or her natural sexual expression including…

…facial contortions?

…energetic twitches or kriyas?

…how about emotional release in the form of screams, tears, growls or whatever comes out?

Can you remain fully present, accepting, even enthusiastic, regardless of how he or she looks and acts in the midst of unabashed passion?

Would you like to fully experience “wild-haired” abandon?

If this is difficult for either of you, try experimenting with baby steps toward self-abandonment… toward trust and vulnerability. This kind of discussion and shared experimentation can, in itself, lead to deeper intimacy.

If you would like to enjoy more love, deeper intimacy, and spontaneous sexual pleasure, but trust and vulnerability are difficult for you, consider doing a few private sessions of Rapid Sexual Healing with me.

So, who do you trust, and how can you grow it?

Learn more HERE about working with me privately via phone or skype, so you can trust more and enjoy wild-haired abandon.

4 Responses to “Wild-Haired Abandon”

  1. Ellen Eatough says:

    Dean, I’m so sorry I somehow missed responding to you about this before. I can only imagine how hopeless you feel about your love life. If you’d like to explore how I might help you, please hit the “Services” link in the navigation bar at the top of this page.

  2. Veazey says:

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  3. Dean says:

    This sounds so wonderful and definetly something (a place) I wish to be and experience but I am sure it is not in the cards. Been married for 25 years never been with any other woman, and while she was kind of the leader pre and shortly post marriage, after career, children, health issues and other life issues I am at the point where castration seems much more favorable than following and attempting any other “programs” to help improve the huge gap between our sexual drive needs and desires. We have tried many things but it always boils down to my huge desire to go forward and need for sex/intimacy and her lack of interest in the subject. What I would like is a solution to just being happy with every month or two vanilla sex. Never had a BJ and never will, and anything wild is out of reach. how can I just be happy for the little I am getting.

  4. Linda Taylor says:

    WOW how beautiful, amazing

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