Science has now proven how gratitude can improve your love life (including your sex life). I know, the connection may seem a little murky or like a big leap, but it’s actually very clear and direct. If you’ll stick with me, I’ll connect the dots… First, gratitude can make your entire life happier. And it can specifically… [Read More…]
How to Get Kissed the Way You Like It
Do you remember how exciting kissing was, once upon a time… maybe as a teenager, when you knew that kissing was as far as you would go? (This was a fairly extended period of time for me since, as my sons say, I was a “goody two-shoes” in high school. And I could have easily… [Read More…]
BEWARE “THE TOUCH TRAP:” Touch More, Even When You Don’t Feel Sexy.
It’s really common for people in long-term relationships to fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you tend to associate physical expressions of affection toward (or from) your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, you… [Read More…]
Be “Like a Virgin”… Again and Again
Remember the song by Madonna, which goes, “Like a virgin, touched for the very first time…”? Well, if you want the best sex possible on a continuing basis, I highly recommend you try taking Madonna’s advice or adopt a Zen “beginner’s mind” into your sexual experience, alone or with a partner! Leave your expectations or… [Read More…]
Beyond Words: Non-Verbal Ways to Express Desire When Finding the Right Words Is Difficult
For many couples, especially those who’ve been together for decades, talking explicitly about sexual desires can feel uncomfortable. Oddly enough, even if your formative years included the “free love” era, this rarely involved detailed discussion of what you wanted, how you wanted it, and when you wanted it. We were raised at a time where… [Read More…]