Do you remember how exciting kissing was, once upon a time… maybe as a teenager, when you knew that kissing was as far as you would go? (This was a fairly extended period of time for me since, as my sons say, I was a “goody two-shoes” in high school. And I could have easily… [Read More…]
BEWARE “THE TOUCH TRAP:” Touch More, Even When You Don’t Feel Sexy.
It’s really common for people in long-term relationships to fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you tend to associate physical expressions of affection toward (or from) your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, you… [Read More…]
Be “Like a Virgin”… Again and Again
Remember the song by Madonna, which goes, “Like a virgin, touched for the very first time…”? Well, if you want the best sex possible on a continuing basis, I highly recommend you try taking Madonna’s advice or adopt a Zen “beginner’s mind” into your sexual experience, alone or with a partner! Leave your expectations or… [Read More…]
Beyond Words: Non-Verbal Ways to Express Desire When Finding the Right Words Is Difficult
For many couples, especially those who’ve been together for decades, talking explicitly about sexual desires can feel uncomfortable. Oddly enough, even if your formative years included the “free love” era, this rarely involved detailed discussion of what you wanted, how you wanted it, and when you wanted it. We were raised at a time where… [Read More…]
Embracing Body Changes: How Physical Evolution Can Deepen Sexual Connection
Let’s talk honestly about something many couples struggle with as they age: our bodies change. Hormonal shifts, decreased mobility, longer arousal times – these physical realities can feel like obstacles to sexual fulfillment. But what if I told you these very changes could be doorways to more profound intimate connection? In my work with couples… [Read More…]