How Gratitude Gives You Better Sex and Greater Happiness

I overheard someone say they are so grateful to have you in their life, for the wonderful person you are and for you do! Let that sink in. Doesn’t the idea of hearing that make you feel all warm and fuzzy and interested in, even open-hearted toward, whoever is expressing appreciation for you? And if… [Read More...]

LOOK DEEPLY INTO THE “WINDOWS OF THE SOUL.”

A woman I once consulted with told me her most powerful sexual experiences were with a man who demanded she open her eyes during sex. She was in her 20s and strongly revolted. But she gradually acquiesced and discovered the beauty and intimacy of gazing into her lover’s eyes. Eventually, he convinced her to maintain… [Read More...]

TOUCH MORE, EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL SEXY

Many people in long-term relationships fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you have a tendency to associate physical expressions of affection toward your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, if you or your… [Read More...]