Wild-Haired Abandon

Most of us relish the idea of passionate, spontaneous lovemaking. The idea of total wild-haired abandon sounds thrilling, doesn’t it? – and simultaneously terrifying. Why? Because most of us fear losing control. Do I need to remind you that one reason orgasm is so sought after is BECAUSE we lose control? Orgasm takes us beyond… [Read More...]

Beware the Penetration Imperative (with video)

Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before having sex. When was the last time you did something — anything! …just for the delicious pleasure… [Read More...]

LOVE TIP: “50 Shades of Grey” and Sexual Healing

When a Lover Avoids Intimacy or Wants to Control or Hurt You (or you them) on a Regular Basis, Look for Past Trauma When the 50 Shades of Grey books became a phenomenon, I got the audio version, so I could listen while I was driving or doing the dishes. To be honest, I didn’t… [Read More...]