LOOK DEEPLY INTO THE “WINDOWS OF THE SOUL.”

A woman I once consulted with told me her most powerful sexual experiences were with a man who demanded she open her eyes during sex. She was in her 20s and strongly revolted. But she gradually acquiesced and discovered the beauty and intimacy of gazing into her lover’s eyes. Eventually, he convinced her to maintain… [Read More...]

TOUCH MORE, EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T FEEL SEXY

Many people in long-term relationships fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you have a tendency to associate physical expressions of affection toward your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, if you or your… [Read More...]

Beware the Penetration Imperative

Have you fallen into this rut that so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before having sex. When was the last time you did something — anything! …just for the delicious pleasure… [Read More...]