Everyone knows the story of Pavlov and his dogs… but there is more to this story than meets the eye. Pavlov, a 19th century Russian physiologist, would ring a bell every time he fed his dogs. Eventually, this created a neurological pattern whereby the dogs would begin to salivate any time the bell was rung, even if food wasn’t present.
Well, this phenomenon is not just for the dogs… it can be used to develop more widespread pleasurable sensual and erotic responses in your body, too! Thanks, Pavlov!
You can do this for yourself and/or your lover. Start with something you know is erotic or arousing for you, a visual image, caressing a particular part of your body in a certain way, being sexual with your partner, etc. Get fully turned on.
Then, while you continue doing whatever is arousing, caress a part of your body that you don’t routinely experience as erotic, for example, your throat, inner forearm, the side of your waist or ankle. Try different strokes, like soft caress, firm massage, light scratching, etc.
So, in this case, the arousing activity you start with (like having intercourse) is the trigger, analogous to the dog food. The part of your body you’re trying to eroticize with caressing or other stimulation is like the bell. And your turn-on is like the dogs’ salivation.
Do this again several times on different occasions, and eventually you will find this new part of your body has become erotically sensitive all on its own. You’re Pavlovian response is to enjoy being turned on by this new stimulation, even without the initial trigger.
Voila! You have expanded the sensual erotic territory of your body. You can do this with other parts of your body until you are one continuous erogenous zone!
(PS: You can use this method to create a playful device for early foreplay, even tastefully arousing your partner in public places — if you eroticize a body part that is not typically considered sexual, like the little finger or inside of the wrist.)
A Suspended Blue Ocean”
Is a suspended blue ocean
The stars are the fish
The planets are the white whales
I sometimes hitch a ride on,
And the sun and all light
Have forever fused themselves
Into my heart and upon
There is only one rule
On this Wild Playground,
For every sign Hafiz has ever seen
Reads the same.
They all say,
“Have fun, my dear; my dear, have fun,
In the Beloved’s Divine
O, in the Beloved’s
Send this tip to friends, relations and clients who might enjoy a little more love and connectedness in their lives.
And I’d love your comments on how this works for you.