Posts Tagged: long term relationships

Beware the Penetration Imperative (with video)

Have you fallen into this rut, which so many couples in long-term relationships fall into? It’s when one or both of you don’t move very far beyond “interest” to real desire, much less passion and high arousal, before proceeding to intercourse. When was the last time you did something together — anything! …just for the… [Read More…]

BEWARE “THE TOUCH TRAP:” Touch More, Even When You Don’t Feel Sexy.

It’s really common for people in long-term relationships fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you tend to associate physical expressions of affection toward (or from) your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, you and… [Read More…]

LOVE TIP: Valentine’s Day SUCKS, IF…

…we tell ourselves stories about what happens (or doesn’t happen) means …and those stories suck. Expectations run high, and so does disappointment. The whole idea of Valentine’s Day is that we should feel loving and loved and happy, right? Well, true happiness lies in Loving What Is, as the title of Byron Katie’s book so… [Read More…]