Posts Tagged: intimate relationships

BEWARE “THE TOUCH TRAP:” Touch More, Even When You Don’t Feel Sexy.

It’s really common for people in long-term relationships fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you tend to associate physical expressions of affection toward (or from) your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, you and… [Read More…]

Change Up Your Thrusting Patterns – Part 3 of 3

THE $1000 TIP TO BUILD SEXUAL ENERGY Would you like to dramatically heighten your sexual energy and intensity during penetration? A while back I wrote about varying thrusting patterns. (The links to those tips are below.) “Sets of Nine” is a specific thrusting pattern drawn from the ancient Taoist lovemaking tradition. It is said to… [Read More…]

IS THE “PUSH-PULL DYNAMIC” THREATENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

“Why are you pulling away, just when things were getting good?” When we become increasingly intimate with another person, particularly in a sexual relationship, all kinds of fears and vulnerabilities can arise, often at an unconscious level. This is quite natural and common, and often happens to either or both partners just when things have… [Read More…]

LOOK DEEPLY INTO THE “WINDOWS OF THE SOUL.”

A woman I once consulted with told me her most powerful sexual experiences were with a man who demanded she open her eyes during sex. She was in her 20s and strongly revolted. But she gradually acquiesced and discovered the beauty and intimacy of gazing into her lover’s eyes. Eventually, he convinced her to maintain… [Read More…]