One morning while we were making love, I hit upon something I never knew existed… I bumped up against my pleasure threshold! Whoa! Too intense! I contracted and backed off, which I’m sure I’ve done before — unconsciously. The difference this time was I could see it. I couldn’t quite verbalize it, but my very intuitive… [Read More…]
Posts Categorized: Emotional Intimacy
Be “Like a Virgin”… Again and Again
Remember the song by Madonna, which goes, “Like a virgin, touched for the very first time…”? Well, if you want the best sex possible on a continuing basis, I highly recommend you try taking Madonna’s advice or adopt a Zen “beginner’s mind” into your sexual experience, alone or with a partner! Leave your expectations or… [Read More…]
Make Love, Not War [With Yourself or a Partner]
The energy of these times is stirring up generalized anxiety in many people. Regardless of your political views and values, the external situation brought home daily with the media blasting reports of chaos and violence, threats to personal health and safety, and economic uncertainty can evoke internal resonance from the past. Be aware that if… [Read More…]
How to Use Sexual Energy for Healing
Your hands, your heart, and a man’s penis can be instruments for sexual healing. I’m going to discuss a couple of easy ways to heal yourself or your partner with sexual energy. One method helps a woman’s vagina become more sexually responsive. As you’ve undoubtedly noticed, sexual activity generates a lot of energy. That’s one… [Read More…]
BEWARE “THE TOUCH TRAP:” Touch More, Even When You Don’t Feel Sexy.
It’s really common for people in long-term relationships fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you tend to associate physical expressions of affection toward (or from) your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, you and… [Read More…]