"OUT OF THE BALLPARK" SEX
Remember the old baseball analogy that boys used to use to describe how far they got (or didn't get) sexually with a girl? They would talk about getting to "second base," "scoring " or hitting a "home run." Hold this thought; I'll come back to it.
It is believed that about 90% of women and 10% of men have a fundamentally yin, or feminine, sexual essence, so I'll refer to women here. Yin sexual energy is like water, slow to heat up, but once boiling, lasts a long time. If a woman doesn't have a chance to get sexually warmed up and at least simmering before she receives direct genital stimulation, the full potential of the encounter for either partner is not likely to be realized.
Here are some possible scenarios of what may occur instead. She may show disinterest and withdraw. She may allow the sexual encounter to continue, but not enjoy it very much, which will probably lead her to be less interested next time. Or another, less understood, series of responses might occur. She may unconsciously draw upon her yang (or masculine) energy to help herself "get into it." Depending upon the woman, this may or may not help her get turned on enough to have an orgasm. She may have one or more clitoral orgasms, which is great, but if that's where it ends, she's only just begun.
The clitoris is the yang part of her sexual anatomy, analogous to the penis. Although I must stress that all women are unique in their sexual response, most women who are comfortable with their sexuality will tend to want vaginal penetration of some sort after clitoral orgasm. The vagina is yin (or feminine and receptive) and the access to her most creative, feminine reproductive organs and energy. If she has had to draw upon her yang energy to get going sexually because her feminine energy was not already stimulated and circulating, she may not be very responsive vaginally, or she may not feel her orgasms throughout her body. Once lovemaking is over, she may feel vaguely (or not so vaguely) unfulfilled and unsatisfied, or perhaps she'll just be starting to get charged up sexually. This is because her feminine energy did not get a chance to be fully heated and circulated throughout her body during the encounter. If a woman does not feel deeply peaceful, loving and open after lovemaking, her yin, or feminine needs are probably not being fully met.
Don't be fooled by a woman who has a high libido and demonstrates a lot of yang energy outside the bedroom. She may be great at "sport" sex, and drop exhausted and apparently satisfied after a sudden, passionate session. These are often the women who secretly (or unconsciously) long to connect with their deepest feminine being during lovemaking, but need help doing so. When they do connect with this feminine energy, their passion and responsiveness can build to even greater heights, leading to fulfillment they hadn't realized was possible. The lover who helps a woman access this part of herself will be appreciated beyond measure.
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